Dependency vs. Self-Directedness
Being dependent on others makes life easier, yet its cost is that our life is no longer our own
Do you remember when you were a child, and everything happened to you, so much so that when you went out to dinner you never thought about having money in your pocket to pay for it, or when you wanted to go someplace, you only had to ask? Perhaps you wanted something at the store, to watch a movie, or listen to music? Just ask for it, and often that was enough for it to be yours.
You were dependent on others for nearly everything, or at least what many of us consider those things of value.
Of course, most of us did not value being taken care of back then. If anything, we resented being told what to do. When was the last time you were told what time to go to bed? Told what chores needed doing? Told what time you had to . . .
See my point?
Same may romanticize the good ol’days, claiming life was simpler as we had fewer options. Yet in reality, when we were younger we had fewer options, as those in roles of power (parents, relatives, adults, and especially teachers) allowed us very few of them at all.
We did not know enough. Were not responsible enough.
Neither this or that enough.
